How
to Deal With Wedding Anxiety
Getting anxious is very understandable given the strain and stress of organizing the wedding and the imminent loss
of your single status. Wedding anxiety almost seems to be a taboo subject, especially with the happy couple, but
given the debilitating affect that it can have it is vital that you know how to deal with wedding anxiety.
Up until this point you and your partner have been I suppose private individuals, you had the relationship but you
could have easily moved on if things had not worked out. Once you get married you will two separate individuals
with your own lives, ideas and emotions but you will also be a couple. As a couple you can no longer look at what
is best for me, it has to be what is best for us. You will tied together in union and that can be a scary
thought.
The there is the wedding itself. Who are you organizing it for, is it for friends and family or is it for
yourselves when you celebrate your union. Are you blessed with (well meaning?) interfering relatives who have their
own ideas of how things should be done, which could well be the opposite of what you would like. Is the expense of
the big day bothering you, are you spending too much, will this leave significant debt hanging over you. Are you
worried about things going wrong, about each others families kicking of? What should be a happy time can be a very
stressful time.
Your wedding day belongs to you and your partner and no one else. This is where you commit to each other for the
rest of your lives, and everyone else is there to celebrate your happiness. As it is your wedding day the you guys
decide what happens! Before you begin planning decide on how much you can spend and what size of wedding that you
both want. Create a day that says this is us, that reflects who you are and gives real meaning to the event. What
you do not want is a wedding where the driving force is the overwhelming need to impress, who cares what anyone
else thinks or wants, this is about you. How to deal with wedding anxiety is by taking control.
You do not have to do everything yourselves, the world will not come to an end if you can bring people in to help
you. Whether friends and family or professional organisers you need people to help take the pressure of you. One of
the big dangers of this time is that you can get so caught up in the organization that it becomes way to easy to
sideline the relationship. You can end up with one partner snowed under trying to organize things and one partner
feeling sidelined, ignored and surplus to requirements. No matter how busy things get you have to make time for the
two of you. Get away from the organization for an evening (or go wild and escape for a weekend), you need time to
reconnect, time to remind yourself why you are doing all this and time to just enjoy each others company. This is
also a good time to talk about your feelings and how everything is affecting you, the odds are that your partner is
probably feeling just the same.
If you are really having serious anxiety problems then you need to examine your reasons for getting married. Go
through everything and if it is more than just nerves you need to talk things through with your partner. It might
be that you might decide that getting married now is just not a good idea. If that is the case then it is better
that you decide now than finding out a few months down the line that you made the wrong move. It could be that your
partner agrees that a bit more time would be good so instead of happily married you could be happily unmarried. The
important thing is that you are happy and that you are doing what you want.
A major source of concern can be if something goes wrong on the day. What happens is what happens and there is
nothing that you can do to change it. It is a given that there will always be something that does not go according
to plan so smile, take it in your stride, adapt to any changes, it is not worth worrying about. The most important
thing is that you marry your partner, celebrating that fact with your loved ones is a secondary concern. If
everyone interferes to much in how your day should be organized, you could always elope.
So, how to take control of wedding anxiety is to take control of the day and make it your day. Your wedding is the
first day of the rest of your life, it is perfectly natural to feel anxious about this new life that you are
starting but you will be with the person that you love, it does not get much better than that. Do not forget to
take time out and just chill out with your partner, talk about how you feel and your plans for the future. Once you
are married you need to be able to share needs and emotions with each other, so talk and share how you feel. You
will find that talking about them makes you feelings less intense and intrusive. Decide on the wedding that you
both want and stick to that and if there is to much work then let people help you. This time should be a really
happy time so do not let anxiety spoil it for you. Be confident, be positive and when the big day comes I hope that
you both have a truly marvelous time.
Being a student of life I thought it about time to get my ideas down in the hope that they will help people with
whatever difficulties they are facing. If you want to read further help and guidance in dealing with relationship
problems then my site might be able to help. Whatever your situation I wish you luck.
http://www.reviewthemagicofmakingup.com
by Michael Finlayson -
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